Scary moment when another parent confronts you because your child hurt their child. We’re going to make the assumption that the aggression has ended, if your child is still hurting another child, go stop that before you talk to the parent and child. 

  • Be genuinely empathetic and apologetic
  • Stay calm
  • Keep it light and friendly 

I would say something like “She pushed your daughter? Oh I’m so sorry, is she ok?” Then I would say “I’m just going to go have a little chat with her.”

Then I would take my child aside, where no one can hear us. I would get down to her level and say “This mommy here is saying you pushed her daughter, what happened?”

Child “She wouldn’t let me on the slide! It was my turn!”

Me: “Oh that is really frustrating. Is it ok to push when you’re frustrated?”

Child: “No but she wouldn’t move!”

Me: “Well that is a challenge. Is there a safe way you could have dealt with this challenge? Because you know pushing is not safe, especially at the top of a slide where someone can fall and get hurt.”

Child: “No! I had to push her!”

Me: “Yeah I can see why you felt that way. Did you try calling my name first for help?Because I happen to be really good at managing slide disputes.”

Child: “No.”

Me: “So maybe next time try calling me first help. I’ll make sure you get your turn on the slide.”

Child: “ok.”

Me: “How is your friend doing now? Is she ok? Do you want to play with her again or are you done for the day? Because if you want to play with her again, she might Iike to hear a sorry.”

Child: “yeah I’ll go say sorry.”

Then I would escort them over to the other children and parent. Give them space to say their own sorry. 

Then I might say “we talked about what we can do about traffic jams at the slide. She’s going to call for help instead of pushing from now on.”

Now what if they chose to be done for the day?

Then I would go up to the parent and say “yeah, so she says there was a bit of a traffic jam at the slide and you know, she got frustrated and pushed. Again, I’m so sorry. I reminded her to call me first for help her in the future. I think right now she just wants some space.”

Then I would monitor my child more closely because they are showing that they are becoming dysregulated, which is harder to spot, at the park. If they became aggressive again, I would leave the park. 

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