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Teenage Angst May Be More About Fear Than Attitude: Fear responses, and how they can impact teen behaviour

January 18, 2019 — 0 Comments

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Crying in the Closet: Hiding Painful Emotions from your Children “"Seeing someone we care about, and look up to, being vulnerable, only deepens our connection with that person, as intuitively, we all know it takes far more strength and resilience to be vulnerable, than it does to be emotionally unavailable and guarded." J. Milburn Link to article: https://wp.me/p9YDgq-8b #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #parenting #parent #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #parentanger #emotionalintelligence #maternalmentalhealth

Posted @withrepost • @synergy.gentle.parenting 💞 . . . #joanryan @raisedgood . . #raisingourselves #raisingthefuture #authenticity #attachment #consciouslove #selfimprovement #selfacceptance #belonging #believingyourchild #believeinyourself #parentencouragement #respectfulparenting #relationshipmatters #relationalneuroscience #southafricanparentcoach #internationalchildadvocacygroup #synergygentleparentingresoures #responsiveparenting

This wonderful piece is written by a fellow blogger who was inspired by one of my articles and an encouraging chat with a special friend. This is why I do this. So parents will feel inspired to talk to other people about their parenting journey, so we can feel connected to each other and so we can find our authentic selves while in this parenting journey. Thank you @blog.insiyabokhari for sharing with us ❤️ Posted @withrepost • @blog.insiyabokhari Parent GUILT-FREE. ⁣ ⁣ I met a lovely and ridiculously talented person yesterday over a chilled bottle of water and a glass of fresh apple juice. Both drinks came with extra ice and set the pace for a very cooling and satisfying heart-to-heart. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Mr. Talented said something which struck me by absolute surprise. He flashed a gorgeous smile and said “empower your children NOW so they find themselves more self-sufficient than you could ever imagine them to be at a later point in life without YOU.”⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I have historically felt that I need to micro-manage their every little step and decision solely for their own good. *I also figured I’d only be “allowed” to pursue my own personal passions AFTER they would leave home.* Anything contrary to that state of mind and thought-process would and has always made me feel GUILTY.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ And so I walked out of my meeting with Mr. Talented with this very crucial take-home lesson:⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ **I CAN make them wholly self-reliant and novel individuals who will tackle the world head-on while curiously meandering and eagerly foraging for their own destiny without mommy’s protection.**⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Wouldn’t then that be the greatest; the biggest; and the best gift that I can possibly give them?!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ So I choose today NOT to feel GUILTY. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ I choose to raise my arms in a gesture to embrace my little ones tighter than ever before. For I have decided to embark on the journey to empower them NOW rather than LATER.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Bye-Bye Guilt. Hello Empowerment!⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ 💖A Huge Heartfelt Thank You to @responsive_parenting for incredible inspiration and image credits 💖⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #earlychildhoodeducation #parenthood #motherhood#childdevelopm

“How broken is a society where a mother is told she has anxiety because she doesn’t want to be away from her child for too long? Wanting to be close to your child is as natural and instinctual as it gets. It is not a medical condition; it’s called attachment and it’s incredibly healthy and fulfilling for both mother and child.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhoodeducation #earlychildhoodeducator #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #parenting #parent #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #momblogs #mamabloggers #babycuddlesarethebest

Why is asking for help so hard? Because our little childhood voices, that asked for help so many times, were often ignored, minimized and even punished, when the way we asked for help was not calm, respectful and polite. But whispering from the bottom of the well never saved anyone. The societal condemnation around a need for community is possibly why so many of us feel like we are imposing when we ask for support. Instead we use passive aggressive sighs and comments to try and get our needs met. If we want our children to be authentic and transparent in communicating their needs, we need to model doing the same.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #parenting #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #selfcare #selfcaremama #askingforhelp #askingforhelpisnotaweakness

Learning how to process difficult emotions, not suppress them, is the key to emotional intelligence “Our society tries to teach us to suppress and minimize difficult emotions, instead of teaching us how to process them. Many traditional parenting strategies are based on this theory. That is why it sometimes feels uncomfortable to validate emotions and sit in them with your child (and yourself). That is not the narrative we hear in western society. Change can feel uncomfortable but in this world of so much pain, it is time for some healing, and healing takes awareness and courage. Being aware of your emotions and having the courage to let them flow through you, knowing you will be alright at the end of the tunnel is how self-regulation becomes automatic and not something that takes great effort, at the cost of our overall emotional well-being.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #parenting #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #meltdown #toddlertantrums #tantrums

Posted @withrepost • @responsive_parenting I wrote this almost a year ago and I recently found it. This moment of connection I use as a grounding tool, to visualize and help me feel connected and attached at times when I feel overwhelmed. I am so happy I wrote it down so now I can share it with you ❤️ “This week I was trying to put my youngest to sleep. He was nursing but not settling. He eventually popped off and began to fuss. I stood up annoyed at my usually good sleeper. I said “ok fine let’s walk around then.” as soon as I held him, he flopped into my arms, onto my chest. His arms wrapped around my shoulders, back and neck, and he lightly played with a strand of hair on the back of my neck. I felt his head laying on my shoulder and I could feel the calm come over him. I have felt this many times, with many babies. It is a good feeling, but it has never had the power to snap me out of my irritability, but tonight it did. The moment I felt him sink into me, I was calmed, I was soothed, I was connected, I was attached. My children continue to open up pieces of my heart that have been locked away. I had no idea the joy I had waiting for me.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #parenting #parent #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #parentanger #emotionalintelligence

Our most basic needs are much easier met when we are cradled in a feeling of security from being connected to the people in our lives. #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #momblogger #childdevelopment #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #chooseempathy #attachmentparenting #attachmentparent

I always knew I needed A LOT of patience as a parent, but I didn’t know I needed THIS much patience. This is like next level, zen master kind of patience. All parents should be given free yoga, meditation or kickboxing classes as a free public service. Just watch the mental health of everyone improve as we start to get just a little of what we give. #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #parenting #unconditionallove #toddlertantrum #toddlermeltdown

“A reward not given, is a punishment, in the eyes of a child; not motivation to “do better next time.” J. Milburn #responsiveparenting #peacefulparenting #gentleparenting #attachmentparenting #attachment #attachmenttheory #motherhood #parenthood #momblogger #mombloggers #earlychildhood #childdevelopment #childdevelopmentspecialist #parenting #parent #childhood #momlife #mindfulparenting #thecarrot #rewards

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